Shine the Light..on what was done in Secret..

I recently was told by a fellow blogger, that we have to “Shine the Light on what was done in Secret“.  Anxiety, Fear and Shame are some of the reasons why so many of us who were sexually abused as children choose to remain silent. By keeping the secret hidden, it gives us a false sense of control. But, I have learned that by sharing the secret,  it exposes the Truth and allows Healing to come forth.

Today I would like to dedicate my Blog post to a young lady who is on her Journey to Healing. The following is her incredible testimony that will encourage you to bring awareness to END Childhood Sexual Abuse.  Please pray for her and all of us who are in the midst of reclaiming our lives.  Take the time to View the video…Share the video… and Comment.. Thank you!

My name is Shavee’  (Shavay) I’m currently 25 years old.  

I am a survivor of sexual abuse and a coping skill that I used to deal with the trauma I had suffered was “cutting” or self-injury. I had started cutting myself at the age of 14. I didn’t self-injury because I wanted to I felt I needed to.Self-injury allowed to me dissociate or zone out from emotional pain, disturbing thoughts and memories. I usually would cut myself on my left arm, my stomach and my thighs I stopped cutting on my arm once I became a registered pharmacy technician because I didn’t want anyone to think that I was mentally unstable or “crazy.” I did have close friends that knew about what I was doing while they didn’t completely understand how I was hurting myself they stood by my side. I was even told by a someone only white people do those things.White people arent the only ones to have been abused, hurt, betrayed, alone ect…So eventually I wouldn’t talk about it anymore or people would ask me how I was and I would say “Oh I doing great.” While still secretly cutting myself. January 23,2012 I had cut and I went to the hospital where I received stitches while this wasn’t the first time I received them I told myself that would be the last time.  With March being self injury awareness month I wanted to share my testimony. The enemy knew that if he could keep me quiet as he did for over 12 years that I would still be his. While I was going to church every Sunday and I was still struggling. That goes to show how the enemy is real. I could hear a word and be ok but then my past would creep up at bedtime then Im back hurting myself. Its very important to seek help and reach out because once I did I wasn’t alone anymore. I thought people would judge me or look at me differently but that wasn’t the case at all. I was embraced with hugs and people understood me while they may not have struggled with cutting they may have used alcohol, smoking or sex as their coping skills… pain is just that pain..I had to make up my mind that I wanted to live and not die. Once I made my mind up I started to fully understand that God does love me. The weapons that I formed against myself didn’t even work… Which showed me that God has need of me. I did make it 4 1/2 months cut free as I stumbled June 9, 2012. Even though I made a mistake I celebrated that I made it cut free for as long as I did. .  I’m 25 now and that I was the longest that I have ever gone without self-injury. I didn’t have a pity party or dwell on the fact that I messed up because I’m human. I have to keep it moving at all times so I started over and July 9, 2012 made 1 month cut free. I just have to take it a day at a time and truly seek God at all times because He is where my help comes from.

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6 Comments Add yours

  1. Arlene says:

    Thank you Denise!! God bless you my sister. ❤

    1. bnewvision says:

      Hi Arlene,
      Your Welcome! But I have to say Thank you to you as well! It is truly a blessing to have an opportunity to encourage a sister on her journey!

  2. I always ask the question why don’t the doctors who patch up stitch up ppl report it. Like doctors who patch up women abused, or children abused and dont report it. I understand the patient doctor secrecasy thing, but still, I’m jus sayn. I loved how she spoke about mental illness not being just a white thing. People are broken and need to talk about it with professionals yanno. Thanks so much for sharing

    1. bnewvision says:

      Thank you for your comment. I agree, when Doctors take the time to connect with their patients, they may have the chance to refer them to services that will help them heal.

  3. janiese says:

    Hello I recently became a follower of your blog . Today I receive this post, and gave you a shout out. I am in the Social Services field, and I work with women ages 13-40 years of age. Many of them have gone through domestic violence, rape, molestation/incest, etc. I want to encourage you to keep sharing your story. You’re right the enemy doesn’t want your story told, or others stories told. It’s healing to share our hurts. Be blessed. Sister I love your spirit. Thanks for sharing.

    1. bnewvision says:

      Thank you Janiese, I really appreciate your encouragement to keep sharing my story and for the shout out! Too many people are suffering and need to know that others have been thru and are going thru what they are experiencing! Bless you and thank you for standing in the gap and helping others.

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